Men are hunters by nature. You can find research from dating experts, psychologists and mental health professionals that all use the same label – men are hunters and love the hunt. When you accept and understand that concept, then you’ll understand why men are attracted to women who are confident, fun to be around but modest.
A woman who exudes confidence in herself doesn’t have to be the best physically looking woman at the event, but in the eyes of the mature male, she will be the most attractive. Confidence is sexy, alluring and magnetic.
However, there is a fine line between confidence and women who are aggressive and overbearing. Confidence means standing up for your own ideas and yourself. Aggression is going against someone else and fighting their ideas. Being confident comes from a place of peace and knowledge while aggression is often rooted in fear and poor self-esteem.
The difference is a nuance of the language and the meaning behind the words. For instance, would you rather go to aggression training or assertiveness training? The best guess is that you’d prefer assertiveness training. If you label yourself confident it will help you to act confident. Labels matter because it defines how we feel and think about ourselves, which in turn affects our actions and what we show the world.
Men also enjoy women who are fun, funny and have a confident sense about them. When a woman allows herself to be teased and can tease someone right back, standing up for herself without aggressively answering the challenge with anger or an attack, men perceive this as attractive. Being fun and enjoying yourself requires not much more than putting a smile on your face, keeping it there long enough to feel happy, and reflecting that happiness for the rest of the night.
Modesty is another characteristic that is treasured. Women who show a lot of skin and flaunt their sexuality may think they need to do this to attract the opposite sex. Unfortunately, the type of man who they are attracting is only interested in sex. A woman doesn’t need to show skin to be sexual.
Women who are modest will be introduced to the guys family and friends. Women who dress like they want sex will get sex and nothing more.
If your goal is a long-term relationship with a new man then you’ll be confident, fun and modest in your interactions with them, their friends and their family.